How To Become A More Self-Assured Person
I used to be quite a fragile character, some would say that I was even scared of my own shadow. I was always paranoid that people were talking about me and laughing behind my back.
So why was I like this? Well it was mainly because, in my opinion, I had a stutter. It started when I was aged four and despite attending various forms of stop stammering therapy I was unable to find the solution which would enable me to achieve fluency.
I decided that enough was enough by my mid-twenties and decided it was time to toughen up. I could not continue to live my life as I had been, as I would probably be dead by the time I was fifty.
I then went about a self-help program to increase my overall self-confidence and self-esteem. I wanted to learn more about stress-management, dealing with depression, relaxation and about how to become successful in life.
What I found out over the next twelve to eighteen months would change my life forever.
These are the things I had to do:
The self-pity was something that had to end. Yes I am not perfect but who is.
I had to think in a more positive way. This was something I had somehow learnt to do in my business life where I work for a company that offers a medical negligence claims service but I had never managed to do it in my personal life.
I had to stop worrying about the future.
I had to stop caring what other people thought of me.
I needed to smile more.
I needed to learn to relax. I now use meditation for this purpose.
I had to learn to like myself.
I needed to become stronger to fight away the negative thoughts in my head.
I realised that I needed to concentrate on the positive aspects of my life rather than wallowing in the self-pity of thinking about what I believed I did not have in life.
I started to implement the above and it helped me no end. That horrible cloud of doom, still descended however, around once a month. When it does descend, I now write two lists. What I am happy about in life and what I am sad or worrying about. I have now realised after studying the two lists that I am very much a person that over-reacts.
I am now a much more positive person and this is having a good affect on my business life where I now work for a ”Asda voucher codes” company and I also offer a DVD duplication service.
I wish you every success with your efforts to gain in self-confidence.
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